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Sorry, but I don't know... by artisticTaurean Sorry, but I don't know... by artisticTaurean
... how to explain you yet.

I've been feeling very gender dysphoric (Google "gender dysphoria" if you don't know what that is, don't feel like explaining now) for the past few days, and it hit really hard last night. My drawing session wasn't supposed to reflect that, but it just ended up that way. The title... I don't know how to explain the whole thing to my family. Just a cathartic drawing.

EDIT: Thank you for all the favorites on this. I'm glad I was able to strike a chord with so many people. :)
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nhprodigio Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I Favorited this a long time ago, but I keep coming back to it every now and then. It really speaks to me as it's what I've been going through for nearly a year and a half now... I have really religious family and while I think they might understand if I explained it right, I just can't find those magic words... I can't figure out how to tell them or even try to explain that I'm not choosing this... it's just a part of who I've always been :/
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PreciousSouls Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2015  Hobbyist Photographer
Very good artistic wise and emotionally wise!
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Cookie71266 Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Yup. ;-; I have to let Pheniox (Or whatever I decide to name myself) wait a while.
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hermafrodite Featured By Owner May 25, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
me on the left dave on the right
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AdotSean Featured By Owner Feb 20, 2014
This is a great picture, I don't think I've ever seen this issue depicted so clearly.
You go, man!
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artisticTaurean Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you very much!
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ProtectivePanda Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Nothing hurts more than knowing your in the wrong body.. and there isn't anything you can do about it yet.. :I
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artisticTaurean Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
It sucks. ._. I'll have to make due with layering for now. Thank you for the comment and fav, I appreciate it!
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ProtectivePanda Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2013  Student Digital Artist
No problem :)
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WaterbendingQueer Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2013  Student General Artist
Hmmm...my mom thought I was transgendered very recently. She is just know getting to know about the LGBT community, I keep explaining to her that I am the "L" in the LGBT AND I like to drag,BUT it is totally different than being transgendered.
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akaCaitlinne Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's really powerful! I wish you the best of luck when you're coming out to your parents! :hug:
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agenttiorava Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I wish you well! Hugs <3
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artisticTaurean Featured By Owner Feb 21, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you very much :3
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Chaotic-Samurai Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Hobbyist Filmographer
Pretty deep.
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artisticTaurean Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
And to think I was supposed to draw something lighthearted to help my mood. It was like, nope, you are dealing with this NOW. Thanks for the comment, glad you like it. :)
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Chaotic-Samurai Featured By Owner Feb 27, 2013  Hobbyist Filmographer
At least you expressed your emotions in a healthy way.
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MidnightShayded Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013
I know that feeling ;-;
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artisticTaurean Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
It sucks, doesn't it? :( Thank you for commenting.
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MidnightShayded Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2013
it TOTALLY sucks.pronouns feel like daggers,"she"&"her" and stuff..and almost none of my friends understand how I feel except for one who I found out wants to be a transboy like me.If you ever need someone to talk to,I'm always here ^^:hug:
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Swymberly Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
This is interesting. I like it. It's cool!
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artisticTaurean Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I felt the need to vent artistically, I think. ^^;
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Free-Expressionist Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I'll probably never be able to understand what you're experiencing since I am and probably always will be gender-neutral, but I can still offer you some advice on coming out to your family. You shouldn't do it until you're completely sure of how you're going to do it, and you're completely prepared for every possible reaction they may have. You shouldn't feel pressured into coming out as soon as possible; you should wait until you're absolutely ready to come out. I may not be able to understand what you're experiencing, but if you ever need someone to talk to who won't judge you, I'm always here for you :)
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artisticTaurean Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you so much :) I thought I was gender-neutral, too, but the male side of me's practically overpowered the female side over the years. I'm really not sure how to explain things to my family. I'm only out to one or two family members as attracted to the same sex, I have NO idea how to talk about THIS. ^^; In due time, I guess.
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Vyanni-Krace-ACE Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
That's a little like me.
I consider myself to be neutrois but I have noticed I definitely lean more towards wanting to be masculine (but a very androgynous masculine if that makes sense). I would hate to have 'male parts', (I'd much rather be blank as a Barbie doll down there) but at the same time I feel like I connect more with the male side.
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Free-Expressionist Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Don't mention it; I'm always happy to offer advice and support :) Unfortunately, I can't give you any advice on how exactly to explain this to your family since I'm not experiencing this myself. However, I can assure that you'll figure everything out in due time, so you shouldn't worry too much. Just stay strong and be patient :)
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JenovaHale Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I have the same thing happen to me quite alot and for me it only gets worse as you get older, it bloody sucks and the only way I've sort of helped it is by talking to my therapist and friends on here, that being said coming out to friends and family still isn't easy (I still haven't been able to tell everybody I know yet) but remember you don't have to tell them all in one go, take your time. Anyhow I'm going to stop wall of texting your post and get some more sleep XD
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Vyanni-Krace-ACE Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
As you become more aware of it, it becomes worse. :(
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JenovaHale Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah that's another way of putting it, still sucks :< and the only thing that's helped me is facing it head on and doing something about it, trying to avoid it has made things worse, not saying that people should follow what I'm doing because everyone is different and may require abit more "time" to come to terms with it.
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artisticTaurean Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I've considered telling my mom, she's pretty understanding about things (didn't bat an eye when I told her I'm attracted to women). I don't know yet, though. I'm definitely going to find someone to talk to. Thank you for commenting. :)
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JenovaHale Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Cool and np, hope you manage to sort these feelings out, they can be quite tough to tame at times >.<"
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SeigiChou37 Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know completely how you feel... *huggle*
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artisticTaurean Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:hug: Thank you. ^_^
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SeigiChou37 Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
aw no problem :3 :hug: :huggle:
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MandyB82 Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2013
I know you don't know me, but can I hug you?
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artisticTaurean Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Haha, thanks. I know I'm not the only one that goes through this, not by a long shot, but sometimes it really feels that way.
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MandyB82 Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2013
:huggle:

I admit, I've never felt this way, but I have a few friends here on DA who do. If you ever need to talk, you can talk to me, or I'll direct you to one of my friends who better understands how you're feeling :heart:.
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